Cowgirl

Overview

The one on top becomes the ruler of pace, depth, and mercy. A position of power where pleasure can be stretched until begging starts.

Guide Details

Cowgirl is the position of power for the partner on top. You delay the climax of the partner below while intensifying your own. You control the depth, the rhythm, and the angle. Done right, it is the most reliable position for orgasm for the partner with the vagina — and one of the most visually stunning for the one below.

How to do it:

The partner with the penis or dildo lies on their back. The partner with the vagina or anus straddles them, facing forward, and lowers themselves down onto their partner. The partner on top can be upright, leaning forward for G-spot stimulation, or lying flat against the other for a slow grinding motion. The one on the bottom lies back, hands free to caress the thighs, belly, chest, or clitoris of the partner on top. The partner on top fully controls the pace, depth, and type of motion — bouncing, rocking, grinding, or combining all three.

Where to do it:

The bed is ideal. A sofa also works well. Make sure the partner on the bottom has enough room to lie back fully and that the surface is stable so all focus can go to the motion.

Lily's Tips

• Lean forward at about 45 degrees and grind in a rocking motion. This position presses the clitoris directly against the partner's body and is one of the most effective ways to orgasm.
• The partner on the bottom should grab the hips firmly and let the one on top use them as a guide for their rocking — it's collaborative control at its best.
• Look directly down into your partner's eyes as you slow down. That eye contact at the peak of the tension is something you won't forget.
• Use both hands freely — one on their chest, one to touch yourself. In Cowgirl, everything is within reach and everything is yours.